The Cure for Just About Everything
...and why this article didn't come out last week.
This article should have come out last week.
Except last week sucked…
Employee issues. Client issues. My kid got sick. I got really sick. Not to mention the head trash generated from not having a free adult night in weeks from work trips and kid’s sports pulling me in thousand different directions.
In addition, I missed…
My son’s baseball practice on Thursday (I’m a coach), and his game on Friday,
Getting an article out on Friday per my usual schedule,
A house showing that had been scheduled all week, and,
Multiple “important” meetings for work that I now have to cram into next week.
Capping the week with my head in a garbage pall was the icing on the cake.
All this to say, I woke up on Saturday morning to a major pity party.
When am I going to catch a break?
When are things just going to flow?
When do I get some semblance of routine back in my life?
When does it stop feeling like every day is fucking grind?
God, I need a break…
No One Wants an Invite to Your Pity Party
You’re already sick of hearing about my problems.
How do I know that?
Because they’re my problems, not yours.
You have your own stuff to deal with, and I’m positive some of you have problems 10x anything I dealt with this week.
No adult wants to hear another adult whine and complain about trivial shit.
This means when we find ourselves at a private pity party, it’s up to us to get out of it.
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The Cure to a Pity Party & Just About Everything Else
There is only one simple but not easy solution.
We must prepare for the inevitable negativity of life.
Not to say that life is negative; it is not.
But this Universe will throw everything it has at you as often as it can, and only the prepared make it out alive.
These are tests meant to prove our mettle.
…and we will fail these tests if we’re not constantly preparing our mind, body, environment, resources, and relationships for future challenges.
This is why I consume so much inspirational and motivational content online. It’s why I read every morning. It’s why I talk to as many successful people as possible (basically, I do the podcast). It’s why I do my best to keep a good working relationship with my ex-wife. It’s why I work out seven days a week. It’s why I take supplements and eat healthy as much as possible.
Preparation for moments like Saturday morning.
See, the pity party I described above lasted about 20 minutes.
Then I caught myself… I literally said out loud, “F@ck you, Ryan. You’re not losing another day.”
…and then I got up and started doing laundry.
Did I bitch to myself the whole time?
Sure I did.
But after years of feeding my brain the thoughts and ideas of positive, inspirational, and motivational people, the idea of wallowing in a pity party and losing another whole day of my life wasn’t even an option.
Here’s a short video I created from Saturday explaining…
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The Best Prepare
I’m a huge fan of Ed Mylett and (after listening to this podcast) Mauricio Umansky.
If you don’t believe me that preparation is a major key to overcoming challenges and hardtimes, then take their word for it…
You want to sell more? Prepare to handle objections.
You want to crush a job interview? Prepare to explain why you will dominate in the position.
You want a better relationship with your partner? Prepare for the tough times and hard conversations.
You want to survive (and even thrive) in the next recession? Prepare your finances for challenging economic times.
You want more energy and mental focus? Prepare your body for the rigors of life.
The best don’t wing it.
The best prepare.
So, how to cure just about every problem you could possibly face in life?
Because not having problems, obstacles, setbacks, challenges and failures is NOT reality.
The older I get, the less I try to stop failure from happening and the more I prepare to deal with it when it does.
We can’t predict the future.
When we play the “Failure Avoidance” game, whether we realize it or not, that’s what we’re trying to do, predict the future.
In my humble opinion, this is a complete waste of energy.
As an alternative, I’ll present this philosophy…
Push as hard as you fucking can all the time and prepare for the shitty stuff you know is going to happen along the way.
Who knows, you might actually do something amazing.
Now get to work.
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p.s.s If you’re looking for something awesome to listen to you, this episode of the podcast is baller:
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